Dating With An Ostomy Was Challenging For Me…

Dating with an ostomy was challenging for me. The constant rejection due to having an ostomy took an emotional toll on me. I eventually told God that I was content with living life with my daughter. But the saying is if you want to hear God laugh, tell Him your plans… and that is when things changed for me.

My soulmate knocked on my door and he changed my life for the better. When others rejected me, he accepted me. When others did not want anything to do with my bag, he embraced it and loved it because he knew it saved my life. He loved me so fiercely and so purely that I thought it was just too good to be true. I did not know what I did to deserve the love I was sent, but I was thankful for it.

Dating and finding love is possible with an ostomy. All it takes is understanding and acceptance. Also, being transparent helps. I was scared to tell my love about my ostomy. I did not know how he would take it. I remember planning our date the day before I went on vacation because if things did not go well, I would be too distracted to be hurt. I remember telling myself that he was only talking to me out of pity and convinced myself that I was not worthy of love due to my condition.

We oftentimes block our own blessings by talking negatively. We all must learn that we are worthy and deserving of love.

I am blessed to be in love with myself. I am blessed to be a wonderful mother to 4 beautiful children and a wife to an amazing man. I honestly do not think I would have been blessed with this life if I didn’t love myself more than I wanted someone else to love me. I had to accept my circumstances and be ok with the ups and downs of life.

I am not saying to tell everyone you date about your ostomy but when the right one comes along, they will not care about what you look like without clothes on.